From Rachel's Heart...
Monday, December 13, 2010
Today, I feel compelled to write about a serious topic. I know it doesn’t quite fit into all of the joy of the Christmas season, but maybe that is why I feel compelled to write about it. And, the topic that I want to talk about today is clinical depression. You see, my heart is very heavy right now for those who struggle with depression, particularly at Christmastime.
Christmas is one of the most celebrated holidays of the year. It is full of parties and concerts and children’s programs and shopping and it is one of the hardest times of year to go through when you are depressed. When everyone around you is joyous and happy and excited to be getting together with family and friends, the depressed individual is filled with dread, anxiety, and guilt over not feeling the joy that surrounds others this time of year. And honestly, when you struggle with depression at Christmastime, you just want it to all go away. The thought of faking a smile or finding the energy to attend concerts and decorate is simply too much to handle. And when you’re depressed, you find yourself crying your way through the holiday that you wish would simply go away.
The depressed person doesn’t want to feel depressed. They also don’t want to put on the façade of joy so that others around them think they’re okay. But even though they don’t want to pretend to be okay, they also don’t want to mope around during the holiday season. It is a horrible feeling being trapped between wanting everyone to think you’re okay and wanting to scream from the mountaintops that you’re sad and just want Christmas to go away.
This internal conflict leads many depressed individuals, especially at this time of year, to start thinking dangerous thoughts. Would it be better for my family and friends if I just wasn’t here? Maybe they would be just fine without me, especially since I can’t seem to get it together.
If you know someone who is depressed, then I encourage you to be especially sensitive to them this time of year. Remind them often that you love them. In fact, remind them more often than you would think is necessary (it can help counteract the other thoughts that dominate their mind). Remind them that they are not a burden and that they matter to you and to others. And more than anything, pray for them and tell them that you are praying. Pray that God’s peace would envelope them this time of year.
The Christmas season is about peace. It is about the Prince of Peace who has come to earth because He loves us all. If you are depressed this Christmas season, then I urge you to find a pastor, a counselor, or someone whom you trust that you can confide in. Ask them to pray for you and seek the help that you may need to combat your depression. And may I remind you that Christmas is not about parties and decorations and concerts and shopping. It is about Jesus. That’s all. And Jesus doesn’t expect you to decorate your house to the nines, bake for your entire community, or smile a cheery holiday smile every time you leave your house. Jesus just wants you to love Him and welcome Him into your home and into your heart. Because, He thinks you matter and He thinks that you are valuable and unique and worth dying on a cross for. And Christmas is about His birth for YOU.
Depression is a serious, real, and prevalent condition. And if you are depressed this holiday season, please know that I understand what you are feeling. And know that I am praying for all who are not having the perfect holiday, for whatever reason.