From Wendy's Heart...

Tuesday, June 29, 2010

I don’t want to steal Rachel’s thunder, but today is her first day in our small town in Virginia. We have been waiting for this day all year. It seems like it has been a long journey for her to get here much like my son said, which Rachel commented on in her last blog. I am quite sure she and I will get together today and do something fun. Its funny, one of our favorite things to do is sit in my carport and drink sweet tea and “be”. We could sit and talk for hours about everything and anything.

I know we have both said it before, but I feel so blessed to have Rachel in my life. I had someone from my church ask me how long Rachel and I have been friends. When I told her that it has only been a short while, she was amazed. You see, the friendship that Rachel and I have is one that, when we were drawn together through difficult circumstances, our hearts were instantly knitted together. As a grown woman, I have never had a friendship like this and I truly treasure it everyday and thank God for such a wonderful gift.

Ladies, friendship is so very important and I have spoken with some who don’t want to open up to others because of being deeply hurt and betrayed by a friend and really you are in a place of not trusting. I very much, like you, have been deeply hurt and betrayed in the past, so much so that when Rachel entered my life, I thought of every reason to not want to trust her and to hold her at arms length. I learned quickly, though, that when you are hurting and facing something that is much bigger than you, that sometimes you need someone with skin on. I learned through bad friendships that Jesus is the only one that you can honestly trust and He is the only one who truly knows you. That was a valuable lesson to learn and I still believe that with all my heart. I also learned how to open my heart again and this time, the Lord has placed someone there who is treating my heart with tender loving care.

I know how difficult it can be to open your heart up again after someone has hurt you. My advice to you would be that the only way you will truly connect again and feel that love of friendship is to open up. Pray that the Lord would give you great discernment in picking a friend who is godly and trustworthy.

Friendship is one of the great things that God gives us women, next to a wonderful spouse. Don’t allow Satan to keep you from experiencing either.


Thursday, June 24, 2010

For all of you who read our blogs regularly I just want to update you to let you know that yes, I am still preparing for the 5K. I have been walking everyday between 2 to 3.5 miles. I have also started using a kettlebell weight. This is quite a workout. I am enjoying working out and walking (attempting to run). I feel so awesome and I use that time as a praise time. I walk with my MP3 player and listen to all kinds of Christian music and find myself just worshipping and praying. I love this time and when I miss it I feel like I have really missed time with the Lord.

While I was walking this morning and thinking about what to blog I was reminded of what Paul said in 2 Timothy 4:7 “I have fought the good fight, I have finished the race, I have kept the faith.” As I walk and prepare to run this 5K I find myself thinking about this race I am running in life. What am I doing to prepare for it?

As we walk through life and face the many trials that come our way where does our strength come from? How do we face these trials and temptations with boldness and confidence? Hopefully you answered these questions with Jesus Christ. In order to know Jesus Christ we must spend time with Him. We can do this in a variety of ways: two would be by reading the bible and spending time in prayer. We need to set time aside each day to be quiet and still before the Lord. We need to fill ourselves up with His strength. We are all weak within ourselves. To run this race and finish it by keeping the faith we need to prepare for it. I encourage you today to be an athlete in training for this race we are running towards our eternal destination, heaven.


Tuesday, June 22, 2010

Sunday was my husband’s and my 18th wedding anniversary. I can’t believe it has been 18 years. We went out for a drive later in the day and talked about the moments we have loved in our marriage, the moments that were difficult, the ones we would never forget (good and bad), and of course our children.

Growing up as little girls we always dream of our prince charming. We dream up in our heads what he will look like, act like, how he will treat us and of course we picture a perfect life that we live happily ever after in.

I remember being 20 years old and being fed up with guys. I had come out of a bad relationship with someone. We were having these special services at our church and I left one night just praying and telling God that I wanted that prince charming I had prayed for, the one I had dreamed up as a little girl, the one that would take me away on his white horse and make my life perfect. I told him very specifically that I would wait for him and did not want anyone else but him.

My life had taken a turn for the better in so many ways back then. I was really living for the Lord and wanting to grow in my relationship with Him. I desired God’s best for me, not the plans that I had for myself but the plans God had for me. I guess it was about 3 weeks later when my husband walked into my life. It is a very long story but He swept me off my feet and changed my life forever.

My husband truly is that prince charming I prayed for. From our first date until now He has treated me with such respect and love. He has made everyday of my life incredible. I watch him with our children and I tear up because He is such a great father. I watch him with our congregation and I see him so full of love and compassion for the flock the Lord has entrusted us with. I feel so very blessed with the wonderful man the Lord has given to me. I am excited to see what the next 50 years have in store for us!!


Friday, June 18, 2010

Rachel and I really put ourselves out there a lot of times in our blogs. We talk about things we have struggled with and how we have overcome them or we talk about something that we are currently going through. Both of us feel that it is very important to be transparent and real. This Christian life that we live is not always easy. We face giants everyday and some are easier to overcome than others. Some of those giants take time to resolve and can be very painful in the process.

I am sure as you are reading this you can think of something right now that you are facing that is painful and seems like it will never end. Maybe it is something from the past that you need to let go of or something that is working itself out but you have to be patient and let it.

When I am faced with these giants that I have no control over my first reaction is a little self pity and pouting (just being honest). It doesn’t take long, though, for me to turn to scripture and find words of encouragement. Psalm 62:5-8 says “Find rest, O my soul, in God alone; my hope comes from him. He alone is my rock and my salvation; he is my fortress, I will not be shaken. My salvation and my honor depend on God’s he is my mighty rock, my refuge. Trust in him at all times, O people; pour out your hearts to him, for God is our refuge.” I love the words I will not be shaken.

One of the first devotionals I wrote for After the Miracle was on how God is in our tomorrows. God already knows what is going to happen and He is waiting for us to help us through all things.

If you are facing a giant today that you are really struggling with and you feel discouraged and weary and hopeless read Psalm 62:5-8 over and over again and realize that God is your refuge, He is your hope and salvation, your mighty rock. Don’t try to handle things on your own because that is what sometimes makes us so weary. Give it over to God and rest in Him and know that no matter what that giant is, God will help you overcome it and move forward.


Thursday, June 17, 2010

Today is the last day of school for my kids. My son is so excited to start summer vacation. My daughter is already making her plans for the summer. I love the thought of sleeping in some, not having to pack lunches and no homework and of course being able to spend more time with my kids.

I spent some time yesterday in my son’s classroom. They were having cake and ice cream and playing board games. I got there a little early so I sat down and played games with my son and his friends. I had so much fun and the kids were great. We took pictures and made funny faces. As I watched my son I wanted to freeze time. He thinks that I am the best mom in the world and he strives to please his dad and I and also his teacher. I look at my daughter and she will turn 15 on Saturday. The time has flown with her and she has turned into a beautiful young lady. I think that she likes me….LOL! I look back and have enjoyed my time raising her but I don’t think I realized how fast time would fly and I don’t’ think I treasured every moment like I should have. As I watched my son yesterday I made a decision to enjoy all the little things with my children. To soak it all in and take mental pictures of every precious moment.

We’ve been talking about goal setting in our devotions the last two days and one of the observations talks about priorities. This has been a big year of priority shifts for me. Through my life changes this year I have learned what is truly important. My top priorities need to ALWAYS include God and my family.

Summer vacation starts tomorrow and I am looking forward to a fun summer with my children, my hubby and all of my family and friends.


Monday, June 14, 2010

Rachel and I have decided that it is time to get in shape. I will shortly be turning 40, and well, Rachel is a few years behind me. Rachel decided that it would be FUN to run a 5K. At first I thought she was crazy because I have never been one to exercise. It has been close to 3 weeks, I believe, and we have purchased sneakers, pedometers, kettlebell weights and other equipment. I have been faithful in either walking or attempting to run and working out with the kettlebell weight. I feel fabulous!!! I am already starting to notice a difference in my energy level and a little in, well, lets just say I am feeling toned.

At first, I was a little hesitant in attempting this goal. I thought it was one that was impossible. I had people who knew me laughing and saying things like “that’s nice, good luck with that.” I had other ones make comments that discouraged me a bit and I think those comments actually made me motivated to work even harder to prove that I could and will achieve this goal.

Do you have goals in your life? I’ve lived a big portion of my life for my family. I wanted them to succeed. I wanted my husband to do well in his job so I have always been very supportive and helped him in any way I could. I’ve been there for my kids and I’ve helped them to achieve certain things in their lives. I somehow never set goals or tried to achieve things for me personally. Don’t get me wrong, I love my family and I wouldn’t change a thing where they are concerned. I have had jobs down through the years and I think within my jobs I had certain goals that I tried to achieve, but I never set personal goals in my life.

When I met Rachel, I saw in her a person that is very motivated and goal oriented. Through our friendship, she has really shown me how good it is to set goals and move towards achieving them no matter what. I love that about her and it is catchy and I find myself very motivated to move forward in so many areas of my life. And ladies, what is even more special to me, is that I have a wonderful husband who is so supportive of the goals I have set for my life. He tells me everyday that I can do it and that he believes in me.

Let me encourage you to set some goals for your life if you haven’t already. Run a 5K with your best friend or go after that college degree that you have wanted for so long. Believe in yourself and move forward in life to something that you have wanted to achieve but haven’t felt that you could.

I’ll keep you posted with this working out and preparing to run a 5K. I sure am enjoying it already and look forward to looking fabulous at forty!


Friday, June 11, 2010

In a Bible study that I had been doing with the ladies in our church we completed a chapter on anxiety. There was a quote by Oswald Chambers that struck me and made me really think about the things that we are anxious over and why are we anxious. “Fretting springs from a determination to get our own way. Our Lord never worried and He was never anxious, because He was not “out” to realize His own ideas; he was “out” to realize God’s ideas…Deliberately tell God that you will not fret about that thing. All our fret and worry is caused by calculating without God.”

When I think about the things I am anxious over or have been anxious over I believe it has been because I felt I had no control over it. When I do that or think that, I have taken God out of the equation. I become more concerned about myself than I am about God and what He has for me. I don’t know if I am making this clear or not so let me give you an example. Rachel and I feel very strongly about women’s ministry and feel that God is leading us to do many things in the future in that area. There are, however, many things that I can stress about or be anxious about that will take my attention away from that and thus I am not focused on the things that God desires for me to do for Him.

When we allow stress, anxiety and worry to enter our lives, our perspective on life slowly begins to change and ever so slowly, we begin to think that God really doesn’t even care about us or we think does He even exist? I know that sounds extreme, but, when we allow all these negative thoughts and stresses into our thought life we can begin to spiral pretty easily and satan can creep in and feed us the line: “God doesn’t really care about you and really and does He even exist?” Ladies, that is why it is so important to be in the Word daily. When we are filling our minds with the scriptures we will see daily God’s goodness and love for us. We will be able to stay focused on His plan and purpose for our lives and not on all the things that we are anxious about.

Let me close by clarifying something. Please know that I am not saying for one minute that anxiety is not real. We all face things daily in this life that are legitimate concerns. It’s when we handle them incorrectly that they begin to control our lives and we then are taking God out of it. One more quote in closing. “Both anxiety and worry spring form natural and legitimate concerns that are a part of life in this world. But legitimate concerns are handled wrongly when they do one or more of the following: (1) become dominating concerns in our life and lead to fear, (2) destroy our perspective on life and cause us to forget that God exists and cares, or (3) move us to drift into an attitude of constant worry and concern over a future that we can not control.” Lawrence O. Richards.

Don’t allow your anxiety to take over your life. God is in control and you are His child you have nothing to fear!!!


Wednesday, June 9, 2010

Do you have a fear that creeps into your life occasionally and overtakes you? I have to be honest; I have several fears in my life that if I dwell on them it can be very bad for me. One of those fears popped into my life the last few days and I found myself down and out and at the same time very disgusted that I would dwell on it. I sat down yesterday several times to try and get my mind off of it and to dwell on more positive things, like the word of God and his goodness. The harder I tried to focus on Him the more frustrated I got. Has this ever happened to you?

Rachel and I have this saying that we say to each other when we feel down or under attack. The saying is this, “Satan is sitting on my shoulder.” I texted that to her yesterday and she immediately texted back and told me that she was going to pray for me right then. I struggled most of the day but this morning when I got up, I told myself that this thing that I am so afraid of is actually something that I have control over and I must do that and move forward.

Satan just loves to distract us from the things of God. If he can get our mind on our fears and concerns then he takes us away from doing the things of the Lord. We all need to get that into our minds. We need to always be focused on the things of God and not on the things of this earth. The scriptures tell us in Matthew 6 that we do not need to worry about our life, what we will wear or what we will eat. He goes on to say, “Is not life more important then food, and the body more important than clothes?” Jesus told us these things because when we worry or fear about the things of our life it can cause worry and fear to consume our minds, it can cause health problems or it can also create such negativity that we treat others differently. When we give into worry or fear I believe that it also causes us to have a lack of trust where God is concerned. God is very clear in Matthew 6 that we shouldn’t worry about his life. We need to be focused on where we are going from here and how to live for Him on this earth. Don’t you think since God created our life that He can be trusted with the details of it?

I feel encouraged today as I look in God’s Word and read how He loves me and will take care of me. I don’t need to worry about my future it only keeps me from doing the things that I need to do for Him today.

If you are worried today or allowing fear to overtake you please get into the Word and read Matthew 6:25-34 and flip through the Psalms. Look for scriptures that will encourage you and help you to focus on the Lord and the plan and purpose that He has for you today.

Monday, June 7, 2010

My parents were here to visit all weekend. They came down because it was my son’s last baseball game and also his 8th birthday. To be honest, it was a little emotional for me. You see my dad also celebrated his birthday on Friday. If you’ve been reading my blogs for the last 2 months you know that my dad discovered he had a brain tumor right before Easter. I was so afraid that I was going to lose my dad. God intervened and he is doing fantastic. The tumor was removed and it wasn’t cancer. So, you see, when I got to spend the day with him Friday, I was rejoicing because I feel God has given us more time together and I want to cherish those times and remember every minute of them.

Now, it is hard to believe that my son is 8 years old. He got a bike for his birthday and is having a blast riding it around. I watch him ride off and my heart swells. He is growing up so fast and has turned into a sweet lil’ man. He is so funny and loving and caring and considerate. Yesterday, as we celebrated his birthday, I looked at him and prayed that He would turn into a wonderful godly man just like his dad.

As parents we pray and pray for our children. This world that we live in is dangerous and it seems as though it is constantly trying to pulling our kids away from the Lord. As a mother, I refuse to allow this world to get a hold of my children. I will continue to lift them up before the Lord each day. I pray that the Lord will protect them and keep them close. I pray that they will strive to be like Jesus in everything that they do. I pray that the Lord, in His timing, will bring into their lives the perfect mates for them. I have a teenager daughter who will soon turn 15 so I pray daily for her that she will be strong and stay true to what she has been taught.

If you are reading this today and have a child or children, lift them up before the Lord daily. Our children need our prayers!!!!!!!


Thursday, June 3, 2010

Two years ago today, as Rachel’s friend, I was waiting and waiting to see what the results would be in the birth of Isabella. There were so many unknowns and we just simply had to wait.

I got the call close to lunch time that they were in the hospital and that Isabella would hopefully arrive that day. I remember the knot in my stomach all day as I waited. I prayed and prayed and prayed for Rachel and her family and of course for little Isabella.

That day was my son’s kindergarten graduation so it was a very busy day for me and thank goodness I had something to keep me busy. I hadn’t heard anything all day so that night when we were leaving the graduation, I called Rachel’s phone and her mom answered and gave us the good news. God had performed a miracle and Isabella Grace Piferi, from all appearances, was doing great. She had to stay in the hospital for a few days but came home much sooner than they anticipated and that little girl stunned the doctors of John Hopkins.

Isabella is a constant reminder to me that God still performs miracles. He loves His children and wants to be glorified in their lives in so many different ways.

Isabella is so full of life and she is funny and beautiful and sweet and loves to cuddle. I am so glad that I have been a part of this story in Rachel’s life and that I get to see Isabella grow up. I believe that God has amazing things for Isabella’s life. He performed a miracle to save her, so if you ask me, there has to be something pretty awesome in store for her.

Today I want to say a big HAPPY 2ND BIRTHDAY TO ISABELLA GRACE PIFERI!!!!!


Wednesday, June 2, 2010

Rachel’s devotional today is on contentment. I love the subject of contentment. Throughout most of our lives, I am sure we have had times of being financially secure and feeling good about how much stuff we have. Then, there have been times in most of our lives where we have struggled and felt like we were going under financially. Most of my life, I thought if we just had enough money that would make me happy. If we just had a nice house, nice car, nice clothes and lots of stuff, then my life would be good.

I would say that most of us have thought this at one time in our lives and maybe some of you are at that point right now. Let me share with you what I have experienced and how it changed my life, the short version of course. You can acquire lots of stuff and for a time it will feel good. People will be impressed and compliment all your material possessions and how nice they are and they may even be envious of you. But then one day what if all that stuff is gone? What will you feel then? Will you feel content in your life? Or will you feel devastated and lost without all your stuff?

I’ve had a big transition in my life this last year and things have really changed for me. Today though, as I sit and think about Rachel’s devotional, I know that contentment doesn’t come from things on this earth. For me, it has come from finding my passion and purpose in life and fulfilling that. Honestly, it doesn’t matter if you have a lot of money or a small amount of money on this earth. The old saying is you can’t take it with you. I would prefer to store my treasures up in heaven.

Paul learned that true contentment in his life had everything to do with his relationship with Jesus Christ and nothing to do with how much money he had or how many possessions he had acquired. This, friend, is the secret to a happy and contented life. Paul was a very wealthy man before traveling and telling others about how Jesus had radically changed his life. He turned to being a tent maker to make enough money to travel and preach. Paul had it all and gave it up to experience true contentment in Jesus Christ.

Are you content today? Inside all of us there is a God shaped void that needs filled. Until that is filled, I don’t believe that any of us will feel true contentment in this life. I don’t care how much money or possessions you have! Why not fill that void today with the only one who can fill it and give you true contentment.



From Rachel's Heart...

Tuesday, June 29, 2010

I am writing today’s blog with a very full heart. Yesterday, I officially moved to the small town in Southeastern Virginia where Wendy lives. And, for those of you who have read my blogs for the last several months, you know that this has been something that I have been waiting for since September of last year. As you may recall, back in September, I felt called to leave my career and start a women’s ministry with Wendy. And, she and I wanted to be in the same town so that we could work on this together (and so that we could live life in the same town again!). So, my husband and I started pursuing a move that became a reality yesterday as we drove into our new hometown.

And, as I sit here in my new home, I am overwhelmed with emotion. As I reflect on the last 9 months, I can see so many pieces of this move that have impacted me and left me feeling very blessed today. And, to be honest, I sat here this morning at a loss for what to write about. Sounds funny, I know, to say that I don’t know what to write about after I have seen the Lord work in such amazing ways in my life over the past year. But, I didn’t really know where to start.

And then, Wendy called. And, when I answered the phone, she said, “I’ve been waiting to say this all year…do you want to come over?” I am tearing up as I write this because much like she has been waiting all year to say that, I have been waiting all year to hear that. And, I know exactly what I want to tell you this morning (and it mirrors some of what Wendy has blogged about). I want to tell you about friendship and what makes my friendship with Wendy so special.

A couple of weeks ago I was feeling very overwhelmed with everything that was changing in my life. And, it was a good overwhelmed because I was feeling very blessed with everything that the Lord has given me over the past two years. Because even though the last two years have been filled with heartache and trials, they also have been filled with such amazing blessings. And, one of those blessings is Wendy’s friendship. As she mentioned this morning, our friendship is truly a gift from God. I have no words to describe it other than that it is a gift that I cherish everyday. It is unlike any friendship that I have ever had and we believe that we were instantly bonded by God through a difficult situation much like David and Jonathan. And, our friendship is a divinely inspired best friendship and sisterhood that has made me better as a person, stronger in my faith, and that blesses me every single day.

But what I want to share with you today is why our friendship is so special. And it is special because of God. If you crave a connection today with another person and you desire friendship in your life then you must ask God to send that special person to you. Much like we pray for our future spouses, we should pray for our friends. We should pray that God sends us godly, trustworthy people who will sharpen us, encourage us, and help us to be the people that He wants us to be. Wendy does that for me. She sharpens me, encourages me, and helps me be all that I can be for God. And, I strive to do that for her too. That is what makes our relationship so special. God is at the very center of it. And, when you invite God into your relationships, He creates something that is as brilliant and amazing as the stars above.

Ladies, I beg you today to pray for that special friend. I believe that God loves each one of us so much that He wants us to have special relationships in our life. He created us to live with one another and to help each other through life. We were not created to be solitary creatures. He wants you to have special people in your life. Ask Him for that special friend today.


Thursday, June 24, 2010

I have been laughing for two days about something that Wendy’s son said recently. He has been on summer vacation less than a week and he is bored. And in an attempt to lift his spirits, Wendy mentioned to him that we would be moving there in only one week and that he could play with my son every day. What made me laugh was his response to her. He said to her, “Mom, they have been talking about moving here for like a whole year. Does it really take that long? Why has it taken them so long?”

When Wendy told me this, I laughed so hard and still laugh when I think about it because I feel his pain. I have been equally impatient this year trying to put this plan into motion. In fact, I have been saying that same thing to God all year. I think we all say that to God when there is something we are pursuing and we just can’t wait: “God, does it really take this long? Why is it taking so long?” But, just like Wendy told her son, God tells us, “My child, some things take time. There are a lot of details to take care of.”

I have felt like I have had the patience of an 8 year old this last year. And God, my parent, has been telling me that some things just take time. And, I have learned that it does take time for God to orchestrate the plans He has for us. And, during that time of waiting, there are oftentimes lessons that God wants to teach us and we can grow during that period. I have also learned that we need to make sure that we don’t rush ahead of God and interrupt the plans He has for us. As we see with Abraham and Sarah, when we get impatient, we tend to cook up schemes to get to our destiny in a way that is different than what God is orchestrating. And, when we do that, it is not the best for us.

So, when you have prayed for something and you have turned it over to God, then try to remain patient as He puts the pieces into place. Because sometimes things really do take that long. There are a lot of details to take care of!


Tuesday, June 22, 2010

One of my favorite characters in the Bible is King Saul’s son Jonathan. He is best known for being David’s best friend and soulmate and for helping David get out of a pretty sticky situation when King Saul became jealous of him. He is usually discussed in reference to David and for the amazing support he gave to the future king of Israel and they get a lot of attention for their friendship, which is probably the most intense friendship in the entire Bible.

But, what I want to talk about today is Jonathan the person, independent of David. I’m a psychologist and naturally, I am intrigued by people’s personalities. And, I really love Jonathan’s personality. If I were to do a personality profile on him, I would describe him as confident, daring, giving, loyal, spiritually mature, extraverted, and a risk taker who goes after what he wants. I would also say that he stands up for what he believes in and defends what he believes is right.

Wendy and I have studied David and Jonathan and there is a verse in I Samuel that Wendy and I jokingly recite when we want to go after something and we’re not quite sure if God is in it. And, this verse is from I Samuel 14. In this chapter, we read the story of how Jonathan killed 20 Philistines with just his armor bearer. But, the part of the story that I like (and Wendy and I jokingly recite) is when Jonathan is trying to decide whether to attack the Philistines or not. And in verses 6-10, it says:

Jonathan said to his young armor-bearer, "Come, let's go over to the outpost of those uncircumcised fellows. Perhaps the LORD will act in our behalf. Nothing can hinder the LORD from saving, whether by many or by few."

"Do all that you have in mind," his armor-bearer said. "Go ahead; I am with you heart and soul."

Jonathan said, "Come, then; we will cross over toward the men and let them see us. If they say to us, 'Wait there until we come to you,' we will stay where we are and not go up to them. But if they say, 'Come up to us,' we will climb up, because that will be our sign that the LORD has given them into our hands." (NIV)

And, it is verse 6 that Wendy and I recite often: Jonathan said to his young armor-bearer, "Come, let's go over to the outpost of those uncircumcised fellows. Perhaps the LORD will act in our behalf. Nothing can hinder the LORD from saving, whether by many or by few."

We have distorted this verse a little (and borrowed from The Message version) and we find ourselves repeating it as, “Maybe God’s with us, maybe he’s not, but let’s charge that mountain and find out.”

What I like about this story and this verse is that I think it shows us Jonathan’s personality. He knew that all things were possible for God (even killing 20 Philistines with just your armor bearer). He also was a man of action and didn’t just sit back and take the safe route. He moved towards something and asked for God’s provision along the way. And, as he was moving, he was keenly aware of God’s voice. His ears were open to God’s voice so that he could alter his route if he needed to. This connection to God is also how he recognized the future king of Israel in a simple shepherd boy who became his best friend.

Jonathan was confident enough to act. He was spiritually mature enough to be talking to God as he acted and was ready to revise his plans if God sent him in another direction. And once he believed in something or someone, he was committed and faithful to the cause. We should all be like Jonathan and move towards what God has for us and rest confident in the fact that God will reveal to us if He is in something. But, we just may have to start moving towards our goal to see if God is in it.

Reminds me of Ephesians 3:20: God can do anything, you know—far more than you could ever imagine or guess or request in your wildest dreams! (The Message). Be a little like Jonathan and dare to go after big things. And, ask God to speak to you as you are chasing after these dreams and remember that God can do anything….far more than you could ever imagine.


Monday, June 21, 2010

In one week, my family will be moving from Baltimore to the small town in Southeastern Virginia where Wendy lives. I am very excited. As those of you who read After the Miracle know, Wendy and I both feel called to work together in ministry and I believe that God has made that possible by opening many doors that have allowed us to move.

While my husband and I are very excited to be moving and believe that it is going to be an amazing change for our family, most people think we’re crazy. And, I don’t mean just silly crazy, I mean they think we’re being irresponsible, foolish, reckless, stupid, etc. You see, my husband and I both left big jobs with Johns Hopkins, took a large loss on the sale of our beautiful dream home, and are uprooting three children who have friends and connection here. We are moving from a metropolitan area of millions of people with endless resources, stores, universities, and opportunities to a village of 500 people with one small convenience store, a volunteer fire department, a post office, and a couple of churches. We are giving up everything that is familiar to us and starting over. You can see where it looks pretty foolish in the eyes of many people we know.

But, do you want to know why it’s not foolish? It is not foolish because of I John 5:21, “Dear children, keep yourself from idols.”

Our life in Baltimore was full of idols. We didn’t mean for it to be that way, but it was. Sure, we were active in church, went on mission trips, gave of our time and resources faithfully, but we were still worshipping idols. We were worshiping the idol of our careers and ambition at Johns Hopkins. We were worshipping our possessions, particularly our two houses that we were very proud of, but spent a lot of time maintaining and preserving.

You see, even though we claimed to be drinking from the spring of living water, we actually were filling our days drinking from the broken cisterns of ambition, possessions, money, and prestige. And, just as Jeremiah predicted and God states repeatedly, drinking from those broken cisterns never brought true satisfaction or contentment in our life.

My eyes were opened to the many broken cisterns in my life just about this time last year. This week in June was Wendy’s last week in Baltimore and I spent every day with her, tearfully packing with her. We spent as much time together as we could in the weeks before she left. And, in an attempt to steal just a few more hours with my best friend, I offered to drive my husband’s truck with some of her family’s things on the day that she moved to her new, small hometown. I will forever remember driving to her new home down the sun-filled Virginia highway and turning onto a rural route lined with corn fields, peanuts, and cotton. It was a site I had never really seen before and I felt God all around. Without the distraction of the beltway, the ivory towers of academia, and the pressure to be the best, I felt God so strongly as I drove through the cornfields. And that evening, as I gazed at the summer stars above her new home, I felt God open my eyes to the broken cisterns I had been drinking from. And it was at that moment that I felt called to leave the busy lifestyle we had been living and felt drawn to this small town.

Many people think what we are doing is crazy on so many levels. And, from the world’s perspective, I can see where it looks foolish. But I know with my whole heart that I have been called to something greater than the broken cisterns I was pursuing in Baltimore. I have been given an amazing sisterhood with Wendy and we have both been given a clear purpose and passion to help women together through the issues of life that they are facing. And God has orchestrated and executed so many details of the plan to move us to rural Virginia.

I am very excited to be one week away from moving. I am eager to see what God has planned for us. And, I am so grateful that my eyes were opened so that I can completely and fully drink from the spring of living water and stop trying to become fulfilled by broken cisterns.


Friday, June 18, 2010

Last time, I wrote about one of my favorite verses in Proverbs about friendship and today, I want to share another of my favorite verses about relationships with you. It is Romans 12:15, “Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn.” And, I like it because it starts with the command to rejoice with those who rejoice.

Wendy and I have spent a lot of time studying friendships and how women can most effectively connect with each other. And, one thing that I am very intrigued with is watching friends who truly rejoice with each other. In friendships like these, we see rejoicing and delight when each other succeeds. And, when one succeeds, the other is right there on the front row cheering them on, big smile on their face, and their heart swelling with joy for their friend. Do you know any friends like that? Do you have a friend like that?

When you see friends who truly love each other and truly want the best for each other, it is a very special thing. These friendships are usually marked by a genuine desire for the other person in the friendship to succeed. And when they do succeed, there is no envy or jealousy. There is just a genuine desire to see each other thrive and true rejoicing when their friend rejoices.

As special as that type of friendship is, I find that it is sometimes rare. Unfortunately, it seems like mourning with each other is a lot easier than rejoicing with each other. You see, when someone else succeeds or rejoices, there can sometimes be jealousy that arises in the other friend. And that jealousy can begin to eat away at that relationship and ruin the connection that exists.

If you do find yourself jealous when your friends succeed, then I suggest that you ask God to help remove those feelings so that you can rejoice with your friends when they rejoice. It is so very important to have a spirit that rejoices with those who rejoice. And it is a very special thing to have a relationship in which you have a love that demonstrates itself in true delight for each other in the victories in life.


Monday, June 14, 2010

I have several favorite Bible verses. And, one of my favorite verses about friendship is Proverbs 27:17: “As iron sharpens iron, so a friend sharpens a friend.” It’s a familiar verse, but today I want you to really think about what it means in terms of the people in your life. Do you have someone who sharpens you?

When I think of this verse, I think of a knife set that we bought a couple of years ago. I always wanted a good set of knives that you have to sharpen and a couple of years ago, I finally broke down and spent the money for it. And, I absolutely love this set. In addition to all of the various sized knives, the set has a long metal sharpening tool which is just a metal rod that you strike the knife against to sharpen it. So, when I am cutting something and I notice that the knife is not doing its job well, I can just pull out that metal rod and strike the knife across the rod to sharpen it.

You know what I noticed about that metal rod? It has to be just as strong as the knife to sharpen it. If it wasn’t just as sturdy and strong, the knife would rip right through it and wouldn’t get sharpened by it. And, even though it is just as strong, it doesn’t do exactly the same thing as the knife does. I could never cut through a piece of meat with the metal rod that is designed for sharpening. The metal rod has its purpose and the knife has its purpose and both need each other to fulfill their purposes.

This is a great metaphor for the people in your life. Just as a knife is sharpened by the metal rod in my set, for iron to sharpen iron both pieces must be equally strong. This is true about people in your life who sharpen you. For someone to sharpen you, they must be equally strong or stronger than you. And, just as the metal rod sharpens the knife to make it more productive, the people in our lives who sharpens us makes us more productive in fulfilling our purposes.

Do you have someone in your life who sharpens you? Someone who is at your spiritual level or higher who sharpens your skills and your relationship with the Lord simply by interacting with them? The knife would not be able to fulfill its purpose if it didn’t have the metal rod to sharpen it. And likewise, without the people in our lives who sharpen us, we will not be able to fulfill our purposes.

I pray that you have a “sharpener” in your life. And, if you don’t, then I encourage you to pray that the Lord sends someone to you who can sharpen you. I also encourage you to hang out where you can find such a friend. Go to Bible studies and small groups. Talk to other women. You can even approach another woman and ask her if she would be willing to be an accountability partner of sorts. Don’t be embarrassed to ask. You see, just as the knife has a purpose, so does the metal rod. And, sharpening someone else is just as necessary as being sharpened. So, asking someone to help sharpen you can give them a fulfillment of purpose as well.

I love Proverbs 27:17 for the metaphor that it provides to us. I also love the friend in my life who provides sharpening in my life and who I can sharpen as well.


Friday, June 11, 2010

A couple of blogs ago, Wendy and I mentioned that we are going to run a 5K. And, as she and I have written about, it is quite a feat for two women who have never run a race before. Can I just tell you today how much we both are enjoying our training for it? Right now, we’re training separately since we are in two different cities, so you can’t even claim that we are enjoying it because we’re having fun together doing it. We’re both pretty much walking/running on our own each day.

But even doing it on my own has been so rewarding and let me tell you why. I never thought I would ever be able to fit this into my life. Sure, I wanted to be fit and run a 5K, but I wasn’t quite sure I’d have the time to really incorporate the training into my day. But, what I found is that with a little creativity, I was able to fit it in. Let me tell you how…..

We have several pieces of exercise equipment in our basement because we always had great intentions of working out. And, we figured if it was in the house, then we’d have no excuse to not exercise. We were wrong. As you can imagine, with 3 kids under 9 years old, jobs, and everything else, there was really very little time to devote to a dedicated work out on one of the machines. I would always have to wait until Isabella was napping or all of the kids were in bed to get any time to work out. And, of course, at those times there is so much else I need to be doing (cleaning, quiet time with God, sleeping!). So, exercise just never seemed to fit into the little free time I had. And, that is when I realized that if I am going to exercise, then I need to combine it with something else. But, I just didn’t know how. It was very important to me and I decided that I would pray for some guidance on how to incorporate exercise into my day without compromising time with my kids or quiet time with God. You may think it’s a silly thing to pray for, but it was something that I really wanted to do, but couldn’t seem to figure out how to fit it in with three small children. So, I prayed. And, that is when I came up with what I am doing now.

What I have been able to do is combine quiet time with the Lord (through praise and worship music on my ipod) with exercise (through walking in my neighborhood) with time with my daughter (thanks to a jogging stroller that my sister in law let us borrow). And, for an hour each morning, I am able to listen to music in a quiet time of sorts, enjoy the sunshine, take Isabella for a walk, and get exercise all at the same time. And, it is simply spectacular to be able to feel refreshed physically and spiritually while entertaining Isabella too.

It may seem like a simple solution to you, but it is one that has really refreshed my mind, body, and soul each morning. I tell you all of this today to encourage you to get creative with the demands of your day. And, pray that God will help you meet the goals you have for yourself. He cares about all of the details of your life, so ask Him today how you can meet those goals and be ready for a creative solution.


Wednesday, June 9, 2010

Yesterday was June 8th and that is a very special date for me. And, it is special to me because I received a very precious gift on this date last year. And, this gift wasn’t a gift like you give at Christmas or birthdays, but rather was something that the Lord gave me on this date.

Have you ever stopped to think about the gifts that you receive from the Lord? As I think of this gift that I received last year, what is amazing to me is that God knew exactly the right time to give it to me and He knew that I needed it at that very point in my life. What is even more amazing to me is that I didn’t even know I needed it. But now, I can’t imagine living without it. It is really hard to even fully explain what this gift means to me. But, it is one of those things that I will forever treasure.

June 8th is a very special day for me and I will forever remember this date because of the gift I received from God that day. Do you have any special dates where you received something special from the Lord?


Tuesday, June 8, 2010

I have a great devotional by Joyce Meyer called Battlefield of the Mind and I found myself reading it last night. Wendy recommended it to me and it is very good. Joyce Meyer’s entire premise is that our mind is a battlefield where Satan can creep in and use our thoughts to weaken our outlook on life and weaken our relationship with God and other believers.

Have you ever really focused on what you think about? Do you think about the negative side of things a lot or are you more optimistic when you think about a situation? Do you focus on all the things that are wrong in your life or do you focus on what you are grateful for? Do you focus on your shortcomings and failures or do you focus on your unique talents and skills that God can use?

I highly recommend this book and I read through a lot of it last night. You see, last night, my mind was a battlefield. It started quite innocently actually with a fleeting thought (or fear) that I have. And, before I knew it, I was dwelling on it and worrying about it and wondering if it could actually be true. And even if it wasn’t true now, could it become true in the future?

Because I am quite aware of the power of the mind (I am a psychologist after all), I reached for Joyce Meyer’s book instantly. I filled my mind with her words of encouragement and suggestions for how to fight this battle in our mind. And what I found to be true last night (and I find this to be true repeatedly) is that the only way to fight this battle in your mind is by filling your mind with something good. Dwell on the good things that God has given you, meditate on the times He has been faithful, and focuses on His promises. Do not dwell on the fleeting concerns and fears and shortcomings that Satan wants you to focus on. Because when you are focused on those things, you cannot be focused on God and His purpose for your life.

We all battle negative thoughts and worry and I highly recommend that you have this book on hand. It was very helpful to me last night as I found myself dwelling on a fear of mine. I also urge you to ask God to help you with this battlefield of the mind. Ask Him to help you stay focused on His plan and purpose for your life and how you can keep walking towards the fulfillment of His purpose for you.


Monday, June 7, 2010

Do you like to write to your friends? I do. I love to send cards and write letters (or really emails now a days) to others. And even when I can just pick up the phone and talk, I still love to write to people (usually it is an email). And, the reason I like to do it is because sometimes there are things I want to tell someone and I know if I wait until I talk to them that I may forget or that I just may not find the time to call them and tell them. I also like to write and receive letters/emails and send cards because I love having a record of things I have thought or felt in the past.

It reminds me of Paul’s letters to various churches. Look at all of the wisdom and guidance we have gotten from his letters. And, the encouragement that you can find in these letters is much like the letters/emails of encouragement that you may receive from a friend. And, if you are anything like me, then you find yourself reading and rereading letters from friends that have been encouraging and supportive when you really need some encouragement.

If you don’t write to your friends, then I suggest that you start. It is a great way to stay in touch in our busy world. As women, there are many things that can take our time and interrupt us from staying in touch with our friends and encouraging each other. So, take a few minutes and send an email or letter or card to someone you love today.


Thursday, June 3, 2010

Today is Isabella’s 2nd birthday. And today is the day that I heard the most amazing sound I have ever heard. It was the sound of my newborn baby crying. A newborn baby who was not expected to live when she was born because she had numerous problems prenatally. A newborn baby who was not expected to be able to breathe. A newborn baby who stunned the Johns Hopkins obstetrics and neonatal intensive care physicians. A newborn baby who God chose to reveal Himself through. A newborn baby who was a true miracle.

As I sit here two years after her birth, I am still quite stunned that God chose to bless us with this miracle. I realize that many people do not get the news that we received two years ago. Many people get bad news about their children and there is no miracle. So, the question that is naturally asked next is: Why does God choose to perform miracles in some situations and not in others?

And friends, I’m here to tell you today that I just don’t know. I don’t know why Isabella was healed by God while others are not. I can tell you that there is absolutely nothing that we did to deserve this miracle. We didn’t pray harder or better or do anything that caused God to heal our baby. I don’t know why He chose our situation to reveal Himself in and no one else can tell you why either. Only God knows.

What I do know, however, is that I will not waste this example of God’s power and sovereignty. In fact, that is why Wendy and I started this website and why I am moving to her town. Because she and I want to work together to share our stories with others. I want to share my story of how God worked miraculously in my life. Wendy wants to share her story of how God has seen her through some of her darkest hours.

I may not know why God performed a miracle in my situation, but I know that He did. And, I simply want to tell others about how God has worked in my life in hopes that it can glorify Him and show others that He does exist.

Jesus revealed Himself through His miracles while He was on Earth. And He continues to reveal Himself through miracles today. And I am committed to telling others about the miracle that turns 2 years old today. She is a constant reminder to me of God’s power over everything and I rejoice every day that she is with us.


Wednesday, June 2, 2010

I am very excited today because we have a buyer for our house. As most of you know, I am in the process of moving from Baltimore to the small town in Southeastern Virginia where Wendy lives. And, this move is something that has been in the works since last September when my husband got a new job that would allow us to move there. As those of you who follow our blogs know, my husband and I have re-evaluated our life over the past year and will be radically changing it in 29 short days!

This morning’s devotional is on contentment and I chose to write on that topic today because I feel the most content that I have ever felt in my adult life. And, like Paul, I feel like I have found the secret to true contentment. And friends, let me tell you that contentment has nothing to do with cars, houses, boats, big jobs, prestige, or advancement. The secret to contentment is living within God’s will for your life and spending your days sharing that secret with others. And, I know this from experience.

From the second I left for college, I have been on a path to advancement. Whether it was college or graduate school or my post-doc or my position as researcher and professor at Johns Hopkins, I was constantly striving to be the best. And, I accomplished quite a lot in my career. I won awards at Johns Hopkins and am leaving having developed and taught the most popular course on campus. And, all of my and my husband’s success in our careers allowed us to buy a beautiful house in Baltimore, a vacation home on the Potomac River, and countless other things that we could enjoy. But, guess what? None of the accomplishments, possessions, or accolades ever brought me true contentment.

Do you know what brings me true contentment? I feel true contentment as I write these blogs each morning and share how the Lord is working in my life each day. I feel true contentment as I think about developing one day retreats for women to learn about the hope that they have in Jesus and how He can help them deal with various issues in life. I feel true contentment when I watch my two year old daughter dance at a wedding reception. Or when I watch all my kids try to outrun a wave in the ocean only to find that they aren’t fast enough and they laugh because their clothes are all wet. I feel true contentment when I sit with my best friend and talk about everything from God’s will to the women of the Bible that we relate to. And while we’re having that conversation on her carport, we hear our kids playing and laughing together. I feel true contentment when my husband and I take a walk and talk about how blessed we have been so far in our lives, but how much more blessed we can be by simply following God’s direction to change our lives from one focused on success in this world to a life focused on our family and God’s direction for us.

I will never forget the very first time I drove to the town in Virginia that we will be moving to. I remember leaving the craziness of the Washington beltway and I-95 and feeling God all around as the roads changed from an interstate to a Virginia highway to a two lane road to a rural lane. And, the rows of corn and cotton and peanuts were all around and I just felt God tugging at my heart and telling me, “Rachel, this is what life is all about. It’s not in the ivory tower of Johns Hopkins. It’s in wide open space and people who have time to talk to you and really get to know you.” And, on the very first night that I spent at Wendy’s new house, I laid on the steps of her front porch and gazed at the stars above and was amazed. I had never seen stars like that before.

God has radically changed me in the past two years. He used my friendship with Wendy and her transition to show me the need to change my own life as well. And, I am so excited to begin this new chapter of our life and I am in awe of God and how He has made our move possible.

Is God tugging at your heart today? What is He trying to tell you about life? Are there any changes that you need to make? Let me be the first to tell you that the secret to true contentment is right there for you to take. But, it may mean that you do some rearranging of your life to take it. Are you ready to make that change and acquire true contentment?






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