Today's Devotional Thought
February 05, 2010 by Wendy Foreman
Who influences your life most? Proverbs 13:20 tells us that who we choose to spend our time with will greatly affect us. We can become wise if we spend time with those who are wise, but if we choose to spend time with the foolish, we will pay the price.
The wise person looks at every opportunity and asks himself several questions. What is the wisest thing for me to do in light of myself and in what God would say? The foolish person, on the other hand, is someone who knows the dangers of making the wrong decision and still does it. Proverbs 13:20 promises us that we will see change occur when we spend our time with someone wise. When we surround ourselves with people who are wise, we will see positive results in our own lives and we will be better for it. The same will happen when we find ourselves hanging out with those who are fools. The scripture tells us that we will suffer harm.
Friends are a very important part of our lives. We have a desire to be accepted and we all want to fit in somewhere. In friendships, we have this desire to feel accepted and it is probably what drives us in who we choose as our friends. However, the truth be told, the best friends that we can have are the ones who are honest with us and tell us when we have done wrong and when we need to change. None of us likes to be told that we are wrong and that we need to change. But, a true friend loves us enough to sacrifice the friendship to make sure that we do what’s best and what’s right. They are more concerned about us than about the friendship.
Are you willing to go that far to be a true friend? Sometimes people don’t want to get involved in other people’s situations, even if they are their friend. They sometimes view it as not being any of their business. Now, I am sure many of us have made that mistake and have paid the consequence of it and have probably lost friendships over it. If you have, here is your chance to start over and move forward in a more positive way in your friendships. We all need to be the type of friend that is more concerned about what is best for our friends than in seeking their acceptance.
God needs to be the center of our friendships, which leads me to another question. What kind of friends do you have? If you can see that you have some friends that could possibly be dragging you down then you need to do two things. First, you need to step back and be sure that you have set boundaries in your friendships and that those boundaries are clear to all your friends. Secondly, you may want to step away. Some friendships, no matter what you do, will pull you down. They will draw you away from the values that you know are right. These friendships are the ones that you need to walk away from. I know that it may appear that you are too good or that they aren’t good enough to be your friend. But, the bottom line is that you need to do what is best for you. We as Christians should never sacrifice our relationship with God for a friendship.
I have learned that God has a plan for our friendships. God knows the journey that we will travel in life and He knows who we need to help us on that journey. Take time today to look at your friendships and evaluate them. Our inner circle of friends should be the ones that make us want to be better. They should be friendships that help us grow in our relationship with the Lord and with others. If you have friends like that today let them know how much you love and appreciate them.