Today's Devotional Thought
July 02, 2010 by Rachel Piferi
Do you have relationships in your life that are just worth fighting for? I mean the type where the person is so important to you that it doesn’t matter what disagreement or hurt or issue may arise, you know that you are working it out because you don’t ever want to lose the relationship in your life.
I’ve mentioned before that my research area is social relationships and within that research, I’ve studied things like forgiveness and giving and empathy, among other topics. And, I have learned a lot from my research. But, I have to say that I have learned a lot more from just living and experiencing relationships about the importance of these topics.
One thing I’ve noticed in the Bible, in my research, and just in my life is that selfishness can really ruin a relationship. I’m sure you have times in your life where someone did something to you and you decided that you were going to just wait for them to apologize and just sat selfishly as the relationship deteriorated because you weren’t willing to swallow your pride, go to them, and work it out. Or maybe you did something to someone else and you were afraid to approach them or apologize to them and you sat selfishly doing nothing as the relationship deteriorated. Or maybe you simply thought of your needs only and did not consider the other person’s perspective, needs, or feelings and as such, the relationship failed.
Oftentimes, I have found that many disagreements or issues in relationships can be worked out by just taking the time to understand each other’s perspective. Taking time to sit down, talk about what you are feeling, and really listen so you can understand where the other person is coming from. It requires deliberate action, it requires active listening, and it really requires that you humble yourself and care more about the other person and about the relationship than you care about yourself.
Do you have relationships in your life that are worth fighting for? I know I do. The next time selfishness risks getting in the way of an important relationship, remember to humble yourself and fight for the relationship and fight for the other person more than yourself!