Today's Devotional Thought
July 06, 2011 by Wendy Foreman
The Importance of Accountability
Jesus told his disciples, in today’s verse, that they needed to rebuke their brother if he sinned. How many of us would be comfortable confronting someone in the church about a sin they have or are committing that we have become aware of? There are many in the churches that are quick to point out someone’s sin and talk about it with someone else. Many will criticize them and say that someone needs to talk to them and tell them what they are doing is wrong. And, my question to all of you who are reading this today is…Whose job is it?
Think before you answer!
I don’t believe it is always the Pastor’s job. If you are serving along side someone and you know that they are sinning I believe it is YOUR responsibility to approach them in love and tell them and be willing to mentor them, help them and support them through the repenting and restoration process.
Along those lines, let’s talk for a minute about accountability partners. I would be willing to bet that almost everyone reading this has an area in their life that they struggle with every day. Maybe it is your quiet time with the Lord or your finances. Perhaps it is the time that you spend with your spouse or children. Every one of those areas are personal and many of us may feel that we do not need someone in our business asking if we are doing all of them well. The truth is those are precious areas and if we stumble and fall in them it could quite possibly change our lives forever. We need to be in the Word everyday, being filled to overflowing, so that we can minister to and serve others, especially those in our home. Our finances need to be in check so that we are able to tithe and pay our bills in order to take care of those in our lives that we are responsible for. We must manage out time appropriately so that we can spend quality time with our spouse and children so they know we value them and love them. These three areas as I have already stated are important and in my own life, these are areas that Satan loves to tempt me in. Having someone who holds me accountable in these areas is priceless and much needed.
Maybe these areas aren’t ones that you struggle in. Then stop and look and see where you do struggle and find someone in your life who you feel comfortable enough with and who you feel is strong in the areas that you are weak in, and ask them to hold you accountable by checking in with you either by getting together each week, talking on the phone or even emailing you to make sure you are doing what you said you would do.
As a woman, it is very important that your accountability partner is another woman. This woman should be someone who you enjoy spending time with and who you trust and respect. Most importantly, it needs to be someone who is as spiritually mature as you are or someone even more mature than you in the Lord.
If you find yourself as someone’s accountability partner let me make a few suggestions. When you are faced with having to address issues with someone, please make sure you handle it with lots of love and that your words are full of encouragement and not criticism. No one wants to feel as though they are being raked over the coals. One must balance encouragement and exhortation. Charles Stanley says” The relationship should be 75 percent encouragement and 25 percent exhortation or instruction.”
In your quiet time with Him today, ask the Lord to show you the areas that you need accountability in and then ask Him to show you the person He would have you choose to help keep you accountable in those areas.