Today's Devotional Thought
July 22, 2011 by Rachel Piferi
It has been a very busy week as Wendy and I have been busy preparing for She Speaks. In fact, seems like there has been very little time to just sit and relax. However, yesterday, we spent time in the morning preparing our talks for the conference and then we went out to lunch and talked. It seems like we really haven’t had a lot of time lately to just sit and talk, but yesterday, we did make some time for that.
Our conversation went in a lot of different directions and as we were both revealing different insecurities, flaws, or weaknesses, I was struck again by the concept of safe friends. I wrote a devotion on it about a month ago and I wanted to post some of it again today with some additional concepts. You see, I think there are few things more important in a relationship than feeling safe in it. As women, I believe that we all need to have people in our lives who make us feel safe to open up, share our hearts, and reveal our flaws. And part of feeling safe in relationships is feeling like the love they have for you is unconditional and that your transparency will not jeopardize their love for you. Furthermore, feeling safe in a relationship means that you trust that the other individual is committed to being in your life through all sorts of weather.
As I thought about the concept of feeling safe in relationships before, I wrote about how ultimately, when you feel safe in a relationship, I believe you are feeling God’s love through another person. You are feeling a trustworthy, unconditional, grace-filled love. And if this person is committed to loving like Jesus loves, then they are the safest friend you can have on this earth.
But, what I think I realized yesterday is that you only learn who your safe friends are (the ones who are going to extend you grace and stay committed to you when you stumble) when you mess up. You see, when you are a perfect person who doesn’t reveal any flaws, you don’t ever see if they will extend you grace. You don’t ever get the opportunity to see if they love you unconditionally. You don’t ever get the opportunity to see if they’ll stick around in all sorts of weather. You really don’t know if they’re safe until the circumstances become unsafe.
Ladies, I pray that you have someone in your life who is committed to loving like Jesus loves and who demonstrates that love to you. I pray that you have someone who you can feel safe with and who you can screw up in front of and know that they will still be in your life. And I pray that you can learn how to accept that grace and unconditional love when you do stumble in front of your safe friend.
But even more than praying that you have this type of friend, I pray that you are this type of friend. We should all strive to love like Jesus loves and demonstrate that love to others. Ladies, I know how much some of you desire safe relationships. And I know that it sometimes feels like you will never have a dear friend who can be a place of comfort, acceptance, and safety. But, I firmly believe that the best way to find meaningful relationships is to demonstrate the characteristics that you are looking for.
So my advice today…..Love like Jesus loves.
And pray that God will send you someone who also strives to love like Jesus loves. And, may I suggest that while you are praying for God to send this type of friend into your life, that you focus not just on having this type of friend in your life, but on becoming this type of friend for others.