Verse of the Day

"Find rest, O my soul, in God alone; my hope comes from him."

~Psalm 62:5

Today's Devotional Thought

July 13, 2012 by Rachel Piferi


Unrealistic Expectations

I was on a conference call this morning with Lysa TerKeurst about her new book, Unglued, scheduled to be released this fall. She spent about 20 minutes talking about her book and the theme of it and I could not help but think of my day yesterday.

In her book (and on the call), she described ways that we respond to stress, conflict in relationships, and essentially life. And, she teaches how we can learn to become better responders to all that life throws our way. And she titled her book, Unglued, because in those moments of excessive stress or conflict or high emotion, we can feel like we are losing our ability to really control our emotions and then our reactions can be less than ideal.

I don't know about you, but I certainly have days where I feel unglued.

Let me tell you about yesterday...

So, my husband and I are spending the week renovating our master bedroom and bathroom. Without going into a lot of detail, when we bought our house 2 years ago, I didn't even set up the master bedroom for us to live in because it was so horrific. The style and the set-up of the room was so bad that we decided to actually use the bonus room as our bedroom until we renovated it. And, this week, my parents graciously offered to have our three kids over for the week so that we could spend 5 days on this bedroom.

5 whole dedicated days to creating the bedroom of my dreams.

I was so excited.

And, I was very hopeful that we were going to be able to finally have a room.

As I was anticipating this week, I imagined new curtains and a new comforter and the fresh smell of paint. I imagined sitting in the chair in my newly renovated bedroom and just reading in quiet. I imagined the kids all piling in the bed on Saturday morning as we watched television on our newly hung t.v. I imagined the new tile in the bathroom and joyfully cleaning a new shower that just glistened with newness.

5 days would be enough, right?


And I realized that I had really lofty expectations as I drove to the mall yesterday and hit a squirrel with my car. And then cried for 20 minutes.

Let me explain...

All week long my husband and I have been sanding and patching drywall and removing shelving and rock (there was weird rock on the floor and wall in the room). We have been priming and painting and cutting and sanding. My husband has been amazing as he has stayed up till 3am every night working so hard to give me the bedroom of my dreams. We have been trying to take advantage of every minute without the kids so that we could have it done when they returned.

And yesterday, I set out for the mall to find the perfect new comforter and drapes. I had an idea of what I wanted and was optimistic that I would find it.

I didn't.

And, as I returned home, I hit a squirrel with my husband's truck.

And then burst into tears.

I laugh now, but at the time, my tears just flowed out and didn't stop.

Sadness for the squirrel?

Not exactly.

As I found myself crying for a L-O-N-G time, I asked the Lord, "God, what is wrong with me?"

I thought I was probably just tired, missing the kids, and frustrated with my house being an absolute mess as all of the master bedroom furniture, clothes, and stuff is somewhere on the first floor of my house.

But, as I prayed more, I realized that I was disappointed that I wasn't going to get everything done by the time that the kids returned home.

I had not found the perfect comforter or curtains.

The bathroom did not even get started as there was so much to do in the bedroom.

And, we likely won't have carpet until next week which means my furniture, clothes, and other things will stay on the dining room table, piano bench, and throughout the foyer until then.

As I prayed, I heard God say to me, "Did you really think you were going to get it all done in just 5 days?"

Unrealistic expectations.

And as my tears poured out after hitting a squirrel, I realized that I had to let go of my unrealistic expectations. They aren't good. They just lead to stress and frustration and sadness.

As I reflect on the theme of Lysa's new book and her conference call this morning, I am reminded of how our expectations are often at the root of why we become unglued. As you examine the times that you fall apart, I urge you to see if unrealistic expectations are at the root of those times.

I know that being aware of my unrealistic expectations is the first step to moderating my responses when people or life just doesn't line up according to those longings. And my prayer as I continue to grow in my walk with the Lord is that I will continue to take those expectations to God and let him gently and lovingly realign them with what is appropriate and good. Oh how I love taking it all to him and letting him lovingly guide me on this journey of life. And that is exactly what he did for me yesterday.

Drywall. Squirrels. And talks with God. That has been my week.

I pray yours has been like mine in that it has been full of learning moments and rich conversations with the Lord and that he continues to speak to you through all of life’s messy moments.

My bedroom won't be done today. But, it will get done. And when it is, I will praise the Lord for the new paint and the lesson I learned through it all!

Have a great Friday friends!

Memorize this verse today:

"Find rest, O my soul, in God alone; my hope comes from him."
~Psalm 62:5

Copyright 2014 © After the Miracle. All rights reserved.
    |         |     Partners Links