Verse of the Day

"As iron sharpens iron, so a friend sharpens a friend."

~Proverbs 27:17 (NLT)

Today's Devotional Thought

July 18, 2013 by Rachel Piferi


True Friendship: 38 Things I Want my Daughters to Know

In my 38 years of life, I have had many friendships. In every season of life, I have had great girlfriends that I know God has placed there for just that time. Each one of those friendships supported me, challenged me, loved me, sometimes hurt me, and ultimately taught me lessons on how to treat {and how not to treat} others on this journey of life.

For a woman, there is nothing like a loyal girlfriend. And as I watch my daughters grow, I pray that they have precious friendships in this life like I have. I know that having a good loyal girlfriend is a gift and I pray that for them. Someone who knows you {the real you} and loves you. Someone who challenges you and believes in you. Someone who has access to the most vulnerable pieces of your heart and knows how to act when she is there. Someone who is just as excited about the new pair of shoes that you just bought as you are {and if she is the same size shoe as you, who shares her new finds with you!}.

Your loyal friend knows when you need ice cream. She knows when you need prayer. She knows when you need time alone and when you need to talk. She knows your favorite Scripture and when to send it to you because you seem to have forgotten it.

And while I pray my daughters find loyal friends in their life, I also pray that they become a loyal friend. Someone who loves God with all their heart and knows how to love others like God loves. The best friendships reflect the love of God.

Today, I have put together 38 things I want my daughters {and all women} to know about friendship. If treated properly, friendship is one of the greatest joys of life. I pray we all learn how to become the kind of friend that God desires us to be.

1. The best friend you can have loves the Lord with all of her heart.

2. Some friends are for a season. Some are for a lifetime. It is not always easy to tell which is which at first, but when God shows you which is which, embrace it.

3. If a friend is talking negatively about other friends to you, you can almost guarantee they are talking negatively about you to others.

4. Truth be told, I haven't always been the perfect friend. But God, in his infinite wisdom, created things like forgiveness and grace for moments that we fail others and others fail us. Use those virtues. You will need to extend them and have them extended to you on this journey of friendship.

5. Conflict in a friendship can be good. It helps you see another perspective and teaches you how to show love through disagreement. It can actually build trust and commitment if treated properly.

6. In conflict, always value the relationship more than your own view of things.

7. No friend is perfect. And neither are you. Remember to extend grace because you will need it extended to you.

8. Competition in friendship will ruin the relationship fast. When you find a friend who is just as excited about your successes as you are, you have found a true friend.

9. Accept correction from a true friend. She tells you because she loves you.

10. If you find a friend who can make you laugh until you can't breathe, keep her.

11. Find something meaningful to do with your friends. Change the world together. It will change your friendship into something magnificent.

12. In every moment of disagreement, value a friend's needs above your own.

13. Sacrifice for your friend. Sometimes you have to lay down your plans, your perspective, or your desires for hers. When you find someone who will do that for you too, you have found a true friend.

14. The best friendships are those where you don't have to clean your house before they come over. They love you even when you have toys all over your floor.

15. Every now and then, go away with your friends. Go to the beach. Go to a conference. Enjoy girl time away from the responsibilities of home. It will refresh you and make you a better wife and mother.

16. Don't do #15 too often. Remember your first responsibility is to your family.

17. Treat your girlfriend special on her birthday. We all want to be celebrated on the day we were born!

18. True girlfriends are those who will just come and sit with you in your moment of greatest need. Even when there is nothing they can say, their presence speaks volumes.

19. The best friend helps you believe that all things are possible.

20. Always listen to God's leading in friendship. The most amazing friendships may be waiting in people or experiences that you never expected. Follow him. He's never wrong.

21. Open communication is essential to healthy friendships.

22. You have to be vulnerable to learn if someone is trustworthy. Sometimes people aren't. Be careful to not be too vulnerable too fast. Let them prove their trustworthiness with small stuff before unveiling it all.

23. A forever friend is a gift from God. Cherish her.

24. To make friends, you have to be a friend.

25. Don't concentrate on what you can get from others in friendship, set your mind on how you can be the best friend to others.

26. In some seasons, friends may need more than they can give. Give it to them. In real friendship, it evens out in the end.

27. True girlfriends always know how to draw out the best in each other.

28. Pray for her daily.

29. Remind her often how much God loves her.

30. A true friend points out your God given gifts {even the ones you don't see} and helps you find ways to use them.

31. When you make a mistake, be quick to say you are sorry and ask for forgiveness. And be quick to extend forgiveness when she does too.

32. In true friendship, there is no judgment when your house is a mess, your kids have melt downs, or you're un-showered at noon. There is just laughter and understanding.

33. Sometimes friendships end and it hurts. Bad. But, God can heal the hurt.

34. Be brave enough to be authentic. Your real self is enough.

35. Study Scripture together. Nothing brings you closer than getting close to God together.

36. Find ways to remind friends how they are special. Everyone needs reminders of how uniquely and beautifully created they are.

37. A true friend helps you fulfill your potential and pushes you towards it {even when you don't always want to be pushed}.

38. Love like Jesus. Always.

Memorize this verse today:

"As iron sharpens iron, so a friend sharpens a friend."
~Proverbs 27:17 (NLT)

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